We all crave control in our lives in some way or another. If you’re ready to be assertive in your BDSM relationship, being a Dominatrix can be an empowering way to learn about yourself and your partner.
A Dominatrix takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship, whether physically, psychologically, or both, and being in control is incredibly powerful! When you’re ready to step into this new world, crank up S&M by Rihanna and keep the following things in mind.
Discuss your limits and set boundaries
Before you and your partner get freaky, talk about how far you’re willing to go. Learn about your submissive’s desires and figure out what’s completely off-limits for you both. It’s important the submissive knows what to expect, too. Setting these expectations and boundaries will make the sessions go as smoothly as possible for you both.
As with any kink, it’s also critical to determine a safe word or motion so boundaries aren’t crossed.
Explore getting into character
With dominance comes confidence. Pick a theme for your session and get dressed in what makes you feel powerful, whether that’s leather, lingerie, latex, mesh, a mask, or any other outfit. These looks are staples in the BDSM community for a reason — they make you feel empowered! Have fun when shaping your Dominatrix identity. Practice what you plan to say and do while looking in the mirror to get yourself in the right headspace.
Prepare for aftercare
Aftercare is all about how you and your partner care for one another after sex. Remove any bondage and gags. Bring the environment back to reality by talking about what feelings the session brought up and what worked and what didn’t work. This debrief will help you leave the session feeling grounded and better prepared for next time.
Learn how to use toys and fetish products
If your partner is interested in bondage or a particular fetish, learn about what you’ll need to make these desires become reality. Learn about how to safely use what you’re going to bring in during the session. At Boudoir Noir, we’re here to answer any questions you have, whether it’s about nipple clamps, restraints, whips, gags — you name it.
Ready to get some experience ahead of your first session? At Boudoir Noir, we have a selection of BDSM and fetish products with Dominatrices in mind. Stop into one of our locations in Evansville or Fort Wayne or shop our online store.