Updated 10/9/25
"You’re Into WHAT?”
That’s something you’ll never hear when you walk through the doors of Boudoir Noir.
We understand that pleasure looks different for everyone — and that’s something to celebrate, not judge. What turns you on is uniquely yours, and we’re here to help you explore it safely and confidently.
Unfortunately, conversations about fetishes still carry an unfair shadow of judgment. It’s time to change that. And like most things worth changing, it starts with education. So, let’s dive into the fascinating world of fetishes — what they are, how they show up, and why they’re more common than you might think.
So… What Is a Fetish?
A fetish is a form of sexual desire where arousal is linked to something that isn’t typically considered sexual in everyday life.
For example:
If someone enjoys photos of a nude person — that’s not a fetish.
But if they become especially turned on by someone wearing just stockings, that could be considered a stocking fetish.
Fetishes can vary widely — from objects to body parts to power dynamics — and can be enjoyed by anyone, regardless of gender or orientation. Some people explore multiple fetishes, while others prefer “vanilla” sex. There’s no right or wrong way to experience pleasure.
Let’s take a look at some of the most common fetishes and what they’re all about.
BDSM
BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism — and thanks to 50 Shades of Grey, it’s probably the most recognizable fetish out there.
BDSM is all about consensual power exchange, sensation, and trust. It can include:
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Bondage & Discipline – Restraint, control, or playful punishment
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Dominance & Submission – Exploring control and surrender
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Sadism & Masochism – The giving or receiving of pain for pleasure
Many people combine these elements, but you don’t have to engage in all of them to enjoy BDSM. Other overlapping fetishes include impact play, humiliation, and electrostimulation.
If you’re curious about exploring, start slow and focus on safety. Boudoir Noir carries a wide range of beginner-friendly bondage gear, from cuffs and ropes to paddles and blindfolds — all designed for exploration with consent and care.
Clothing Fetishes
For some, specific clothing can be a powerful turn-on. Clothing fetishes often revolve around how something looks, feels, or even smells.
Common examples include:
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Lingerie or panties
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Stockings or heels
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Suits or uniforms
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Latex or leather
Some people are drawn to the material itself — like latex, silk, or lace — while others are aroused by the act of someone wearing or removing it. Whatever your style, it’s all about the sensory and psychological thrill.
Body Part Fetishes
This one’s more common than you might think. Known as partialism, it’s when arousal centers around a particular body part that isn’t traditionally sexualized.
The most well-known? Feet.
But it can also include hands, armpits, hair, ears, or even navels. Whether it’s visual, tactile, or imaginative — these fetishes can be a fun and intimate way to explore pleasure with your partner.
Role Play
Role play is one of the most playful and creative ways to bring fantasy to life. You and your partner take on new roles — teacher/student, boss/employee, maid/master — and act out a scene that fuels desire and connection.
For some, this becomes a fetish in itself. Certain roles, scripts, or dynamics become integral to their arousal. Role play can be sweet, spicy, or totally taboo — the only rule is that everyone involved gives enthusiastic consent.
Group Sex & Voyeurism
Group sex, or sex involving more than two people, can also fall under the fetish umbrella.
Some common variations include:
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Swinging / partner swapping
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Cuckolding – when one partner is aroused by their partner being intimate with someone else
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Voyeurism – being turned on by watching others
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Exhibitionism – being turned on by being watched
These dynamics can mix and overlap, but at their core they rely on trust, communication, and consent.
Fetish Exploration Starts Here
The world of fetishes is vast, diverse, and — when practiced safely — incredibly rewarding. Whether you’re curious about sensory play, clothing, power dynamics, or roleplay, Boudoir Noir is here to guide your journey.
We believe that exploring your desires is part of sexual wellness — and it should always be fun, informed, and judgment-free.
Shop our Fetish collection online or visit us in Fort Wayne or Evansville to find everything you need to play safely and confidently.