For the strap-on novice, the world of possibilities to explore seems endless — and it is. There are many different types of strap-ons to use, and each can provide a different experience for you and your partner.
Whether you are a same sex or opposite sex couple, strap-ons can be a fun way to add some spice to your sex life.
When entering into this new promised land of sexual pleasure, it’s important to have clear communication with your partner and to keep an open mind.
Some things to think about include:
- How would you like to try strap on play?
- What kinds of sex acts do you want to try?
- Which role do each of you want to have?
- What are you comfortable with?
Knowing these answers will help you to pick the right product or products to begin with.
When it comes to strap-on products, there are a lot of different options on the market, and the choices can be overwhelming for beginners. Think about comfort for both partners when making the choice. You want a harness that will stay put while allowing the person wearing it to be able to move. You also want a dildo that will be comfortable when being inserted, especially if it’s the recipient’s first time being penetrated.
In some instances, you purchase a combination harness and dildo set. You can also purchase each piece separately. Regardless of which way you go, it’s important to communicate with your partner and make it a joint decision. It makes sense that the person who is going to be wearing the harness chooses that for comfort and placement, while the other partner is likely to have an opinion on the type of dildo that is to be used.
If you’re not sure where to get started, here are some great strap-on products that are great for first timers.
Fetish First Timers Strap-On Set
This combo of harness and dildo is great for beginners! The harness has soft straps that go around the thighs and under the butt for a sturdy, comfortable fit. The wide base and crotch coverage help add to comfort and stability, allowing you to experiment with different positions and find your groove. The included dildo is tapered and works for both anal and vaginal penetration, so you can truly experience all that strap-on sex has to offer.
This harness should work with virtually any strap-on dildo on the market, making it a great, versatile option. The soft straps and crotch covering make it a comfortable option to allow the wearer to have a great experience too. It will stay in place and give the wearer the freedom to move with a strap system that goes around the thigh.
This phallic-shaped dildo has a realistic feel that makes it a great choice for both G-spot and prostate stimulation. It can be used in a harness, like the one mentioned above, or completely on its own if you’re not in the mood for strap-on play at the time. This dildo has a very cool feature: it warms with your body temperature or when you run it under warm water.
This dildo is great for pegging and anal play, specifically for beginners, but it can be used for vaginal play too. The curved shape makes it a great choice for reaching the prostate in men or the G-spot in women, but it’s slim girth make it a particularly good choice for pegging and anal sex.
Boudoir Noir has a large selection of other great strap-on products to explore for beginners, and you can buy them online or in our Fort Wayne and Evansville stores.
Once you’ve decided on the harness and strap-on you’d like to try, don’t forget the lube! Lube is just as important as the strap-on itself in making sure you have a good experience.
As with anything new, strap-on sex might be uncomfortable at first! You may laugh when you see yourself wearing a strap on for the first time, and that’s okay. If you find yourself struggling to take it seriously, wear it around the house for a while to begin getting used to it. It’s a vulnerable experience that takes time to adjust to. This is why communication and an open mind are so vital. Most importantly, focus on having fun with your partner. Enjoy exploring the new world of strap-on sex!