How to Give the Best Sensual Massage

Whether your partner’s top love language is physical touch or if you just want to turn up the romance in your relationship, a sensual massage is a great way to make them feel special. 

Treating your partner to such an intimate experience helps to deepen your connection and feeling your hands all over their body is a surefire way to turn them on. If you’ve never given a massage before and aren’t sure where to begin, that’s okay! We are here to help you set the mood and enjoy the experience. 

Giving the best sensual massage requires you to ensure that your partner is able to completely relax, let go, and enjoy the moment, but slowing down and allowing yourself to be present isn’t something that comes naturally or easily to everyone. A busy schedule or stressors at work and in everyday life can make this extremely difficult for some people, especially during the busy holiday season. 

To aid this transition into total, freeing relaxation, occupying all of your partner’s senses is key.  

• Turn the lights down low

First, set the mood and remove any visual clutter by turning the lights down low. If you don’t have a dim option on your overhead lights or lamps, consider giving the massage by candlelight. Not only do candles present the most romantic lighting possible, but they can also add any aroma you desire to the space. 

• Pay attention to the aromatics 

Scents have a powerful way of influencing moods. 

Candles, oil diffusers, incense or even room sprays can be used to create a temporary oasis in your bedroom-turned-massage parlor. 

When it comes to scent, a little bit can go a long way, so make sure not to overdo it. Choose a relaxing aroma, like lavender, and add that to your sensual massage set up. If you are using multiple items with different scents, make sure they go well together. Few things are more distracting than overwhelming odors! 

• Don’t forget the oils 

Just as you wouldn’t have sex without lube, you shouldn’t give a massage without plenty of massage oil. Oils help your hands to guide sensually and easily along the delicate skin of your partner. To add to the sensation, certain lotions can even provide cooling or warming effects, perfect to change up depending on the season. What’s a better way to literally turn up the heat on a cold winter night when it’s hard to take your clothes off? 

• Invest in the comfort essentials 

There’s a lot that goes into comfort, but the basics you will need are soft bed sheets, towels, and pillows.

Towels can be rolled or folded in different ways to act as tiny pillows under small points of pressure for people who aren’t keen on lying prone. The last thing you want to do is add pressure to the neck while massaging, so using a number of pillows to form a ring for the head while leaving space for the face is a good idea. If you have a travel neck pillow, this may be able to provide the head and neck comfort you’re looking for, too.

For the more advanced or more frequent massager, investing in a massage table might be a good idea. 

• Set the soundtrack to set the mood 

From soft classical music to falling rain, there are many sensual sounds that can enhance the experience and help your partner to fall deeper into relaxation. Ask your partner what he or she likes or choose what you personally prefer, but be sure to keep the volume soft — you want to be able to hear your partner moan in pleasure as you work their body! 

• Listen to your partner 

The best way to figure out what your partner enjoys is to listen to his or her reaction as you move your hands around their sweet spots. Their body language and their moans will guide you from head to toe. As you reach a new spot, start gentle, and slowly apply more pressure while watching to see their reaction. Since everyone is different, this is the best way to ensure you’re providing the most pleasurable experience you can be. 

• Finish it off with something sweet 

End the massage by triggering the last of their senses - taste! Whether it’s a rich piece of dark chocolate or a glass of wine, you’re sure to keep the good mood going throughout the rest of the night when you tantalize their taste buds.