Nothing ignites your bedroom passion quite as easily as dirty talk. Unlike a lot of sex enhancers, dirty talk requires no specific tools or products — just you and your voice! But the impact that it can have on your life in the sheets is incredible.
Dirty talk allows you and your partner to explore a secret world created just for you. It can also bring you closer together and electrify your connection both inside and outside of the bedroom.
That being said, dirty talk is something that often scares newbies. People who haven’t talked dirty before are sometimes anxious about how they will sound and what their partner will think. We get it! Trying something new puts you in a vulnerable position, which is always scary.
The most common things that people are afraid of when it comes to dirty talk typically fall into a few categories, like worrying that it’s going to be awkward, being unsure of what to say, or being afraid of taking it too far, which could cause problems with your partner.
If you have one (or all) of these fears, we are here to help you gain the confidence to give it a try.
Let’s lift a big weight off your shoulders right off the bat: dirty talk doesn’t have to be intimidating. It can be anything you want it to be, which is part of the beauty of it!
When you start talking dirty for the first time, it will likely feel awkward, but the only way to make that feeling go away is to get more experience talking dirty. Use these tips to get started, and pay attention to how your partner responds. They may talk dirty back to you, and then things really get hot!
- Talk about what’s happening.
You can make sex extra hot by simply talking about what you are doing or what you are about to do to or with your partner.
Build up to it and leave your partner craving you all day long with a flirty, sexy message stating what you are looking forward to doing to him or her later. Be specific and say something like “I’m going to do (act)” or “I can’t wait to see you (doing act) later.”
In the moment, your words can be as simple as describing the actions, giving directions like “harder” or “don’t stop” or letting your partner know when you’re going to come.
- Fantasize together.
If you and your partner have ever talked about a fantasy you share, bringing it up while you’re going at it will give you both something extra to think about.
For example, if you and your partner share the desire to role play in specific roles, you can say something that refers to your partner in that role while you’re getting hot and heavy. Start off by saying something simple and see if your partner responds well, and then keep going.
- Talk about your partner’s body.
Whether it’s the stubble of his sexy beard or the shape of her breasts, talking about the things that drive you wild about your partner is one of the easiest ways to make them feel special, wanted, and turned on. Say something like “I love your (body part)” or “your (body part) looks so good when (an activity is happening).”
Once you’ve gotten more comfortable with dirty talk, you can start to expand it. If you’re concerned about taking it too far, make sure to have conversations with your partner about the dirty talk when you aren’t in the middle of sex. As with all things sex, great communication about desires and comfort levels is super important when it comes to dirty talk.
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