Updated 10/2/25
Great relationships are built on communication, trust, and honesty. Whether you’re starting something new or deepening a long-term connection, being open about your wants, needs, and desires is essential. That includes your sex life. Sharing your fantasies doesn’t just make things more exciting in the bedroom—it strengthens intimacy and helps create a fulfilling sexual wellness journey for both of you.
If you’re ready to talk with your partner about your kinky side, here are some tips to make the conversation comfortable, fun, and rewarding.
1. Take the Conversation Out of the Bedroom
Talking about sex outside of the bedroom helps remove pressure and keeps things relaxed. A casual conversation over coffee, during a walk, or while hanging out at home creates a safe space for honesty. This simple shift also makes your relationship feel more open, extending intimacy beyond physical touch.
2. Be Direct, Honest, and Clear
Your partner can’t read your mind, so it’s important to be upfront about what you want. Share openly and without shame—your desires are valid. If your partner isn’t ready to try everything right away, don’t worry. You can ease into new experiences and explore fantasies together over time.
3. Ask About Their Desires First
Sometimes the best way to open the door is by asking your partner about their own fantasies. This shows you care about their needs while setting a safe, judgment-free tone. Even if they hesitate at first, your willingness to share will often encourage them to open up.
4. Use a Sexy Game to Break the Ice
If you’re nervous about starting the conversation, make it playful. Adult bedroom games, like Date Nights Personal Questions, Date Night - Would You Rather Edition, or Curiosity Cues, are designed to spark intimacy and reveal hidden fantasies in a fun, pressure-free way. You can find these games (and plenty of other couple-friendly options) at Boudoir Noir’s Fort Wayne and Evansville locations, or shop online for discreet delivery.
5. Keep an Open Mind
It’s important to approach this conversation without expecting one specific outcome. Some fantasies may click instantly, while others take time. What matters most is that you and your partner are communicating and exploring together.