When entering into a new relationship, or even opening up on a deeper level to someone you have a connection with, it’s important to be open and honest about your wants, desires, and needs from a partner. Talking about your fantasies in the bedroom is no different. You’ll have a much more fulfilled sex life if you can both get your needs met.
When you’re ready to talk to your partner about your kinky side, here are some tips to make it a smooth and enjoyable conversation for both of you.
Have the conversation outside the bedroom
When having a discussion about sex, it’s always a good idea to take it outside of the bedroom. This simple change of scenery will help to set the stage for a conversation, without making your partner feel potentially self conscious or inadequate. If you’re not used to talking about sex outside of the bedroom, this practice alone will help to build intimacy between your partner and you.
Be direct, open, and honest
As with any other part of your relationship, you deserve to get what you want in bed, so it’s important to be open and honest. You can’t expect your partner to read your mind or innately know what you want, so being direct and asking for it is key. While he or she may not immediately be comfortable with engaging in the activities you suggest, you may be able to gradually work up to your fantasies.
Ask him or her about their own kinky side first
One great way to open up the conversation is to ask your partner about their kinky side first. In some cases, they might not feel comfortable sharing first, but may open up as you share your fantasies. Either way, asking them first helps to break the ice and set the tone for a safe, honest discussion.
Try a bedroom game to help open up the conversation about your fantasies
If you’re not sure how to approach the subject or just want to have more fun with it, trying a sexy game will do the trick! Lust is a game that will specifically help you to reveal some of your fantasies. This is a fun, easy way to help you and your partner to let your guards down.
Release attachment or expectation for any specific kind of result
It is important for you to go into this conversation with an open mind, unattached to any particular outcome. Realize that some things might be easy for your partner to get on board with, while others may take more time.
Once you’ve talked about your kinky side and are ready to explore it, take a trip to one of our stores in Fort Wayne or Evansville, or visit our online shop to find the perfect toys for you.