By: Javay - The Millennial Sexpert
Sexual confidence and independence are tricky parts of life for everyone. From bodily changes, life adjustments, and personal growth, sexual confidence and independence can waiver. Sexual confidence is the confidence you have in sexual situations and sexual independence is when that confidence is for your authentic sensual and sexual self. If you struggle with building both your sexual confidence and sexual independence here are four different things you can try to help you be more confident and independent.
Put On Something That Makes You Feel Comfortable & Sexy
Comfortability is the first thing about being confident. So start by putting on things that make you feel sexy and that you feel good in. You can choose to dress in anything that makes you feel comfortable and good, be it lingerie, an oversized t-shirt, or a fancy outfit, and enjoy how good you look.
Take Nudes or Get a Boudoir Shoot
There is some serious power behind the lens of a camera and you can use it for your sexual confidence and independence. Taking nudes or doing a boudoir shoot can benefit your confidence by helping you spend more time looking at and appreciating your body. Taking nudes can help you appreciate your body and become more confident about it. If you aren’t ready for full body nudes or want to gain confidence on a particular part of your body then take detail shots, focusing only on specific parts. If you don’t feel confident in taking nudes on your own, doing a shoot with a boudoir photographer can be highly beneficial. With a photographer you get guidance on posing and someone to hype you up and make you feel like your hottest self.
Speak Affirmations to Yourself
Words matter and the words we say to ourselves about ourout bodies, about our sexuality, about our sexual interests matter. Speaking positive affirmations about yourself, to yourself is a great way to grow your confidence. You can repeat simple affirmations like, “My body is sex”, “I am the embodiment of sexual independence” or if you want to build confidence around a specific thing repeat affirmations on that thing, such as, “I love the curves of my body”, “my lips are delectable and absolutely kissable”. If you need help with more affirmations check out Dr. Jill’s list of sexual confidence affirmations.
Let Your Partner Compliment You
Now this last way may seem contrary to sexual independence, but no one is truly completely independent, we all need some help along the way. Your partner(s), if you have them, can be a great help in terms of your sexual confidence and independence. Accepting compliments they give you, in and out of the bedroom, can help bolster your confidence because you are hearing from someone else all the amazing things about you that can help you appreciate them yourself, which does wonders for your confidence.
If you struggle with your sexual confidence and independence know that you aren’t alone. It is an ongoing process to be comfortable and confident in a multitude of vulnerable, sexual situations. Just remember that our relationships with ourselves, our bodies, our sexuality are complex and take time and that’s okay.