If you’re looking to turn up the heat in the bedroom, why not do just that — literally?
Exploring temperature play can add an exciting new element to your sex life. Temperature play is when different temperatures are used to excite the senses and add extra stimulation to the body, which has many temperature receptors. It’s often associated with BDSM, but anyone can explore it, even if you don’t have experience with other forms of play in the bedroom.
Temperature play can involve the use of nearly anything, including food, sex toys, wax, and ice.
Tips and tricks for getting started with temperature play
Before you dive right in, there are a few important things to take note of. Consent is necessary for any sexual experience, so have a conversation with your partner before incorporating temperature play into your sex life.
When using different temperatures, always be sure to test the temperature of whatever you’re using for safety. Too extreme of a temperature can be uncomfortable, especially on sensitive areas of the body like nipples. And, when bringing in food, wax, or other fun elements, make sure you have a towel nearby and anything else you’ll need for the clean-up process.
As always, communicate with each other frequently — what you enjoy or the pain you can endure without crossing a line may not be the same threshold that your partner has. Come up with a safe word with your partner so you know that if either of you says it, the temperature play will stop.
Cold temperature activities
Temperature play activities are seemingly endless! Naturally, ice is a great way to get started with cold temperature play. Ice cubes can be rubbed up and down the body — with your hand or by holding the ice cube in your mouth — which gives the recipient a unique sensation, especially near sensitive areas like nipples. Or, incorporate cold foods, like ice cream or popsicles, that can be licked off the body.
You can follow that up by licking or sucking where the ice was for a quick change to a warm temperature. Blowing on an area that was just cold can also create a fun sensation. You can also chill your sex toys by putting them in the fridge or in cold water — glass toys are perfect for both cold and hot temperature play!
Be aware that cold temperatures can be numbing to the genitals, so as a beginner, stick to areas like nipples and inner thighs.
Hot temperature activities
If you haven’t ever incorporated warming sex toys and warming or cooling lubricants into your sex life, you’re in for a treat! Warm toys can relieve pain, heighten arousal, and help you completely relax. Draping a hot towel across your lover can also help them relax and truly enjoy every feeling.
Remember when we mentioned ice cubes and cold food on the body? Temperature play works both ways, so swap those items for warm oils and wax. We recommend our sexy drip candles, made with your pleasure (and safety) in mind. With a low melting temperature, they’re ideal for hot temperature play and can be dripped along the body from two to three feet above. When you’re done, removing the melted wax can be a fun way to touch your partner.
Something as simple as drinking a warm drink like tea before going down on your partner can make your mouth even warmer on them than usual. Just be sure to avoid sugary drinks before giving head to avoid any infections for your partner.
At Boudoir Noir, we embrace you and your kinks with zero judgment. Stop into one of our stores in Evansville or Fort Wayne to pick up all the toys and supplies you need for a sexy night or shop online.