If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to step out of your skin and be someone else for a while, you are definitely not alone. However, some people have a difficult time expressing this desire and letting go enough to make it happen for fear of being rejected or judged.
It offers variety and a feeling of newness
Perhaps the most obvious section on this list, but we still think it’s important to talk about. If you’re in a monogamous relationship, variety is missing from your relationship. Now don’t get us wrong, being in a monogamous relationship with someone you love is incredible in many ways, and we’re not trying to dig at that. All we are saying is that role playing allows partners to experience something new and different in the bedroom without the need for additional or varied partners. It’s a good way to keep things new and fresh while remaining committed and actually increasing trust and intimacy across your relationship.
Helps strengthen communication between partners
In order for a role play session to be successful, both partners need to be extremely communicative with one another before, during, and after the session. It’s important to clearly express your desires and comfort levels beforehand to ensure that everyone is on the same page about what’s fair game and what isn’t. During the session, open communication will help you both to feel confident and fully enjoy what you’re doing, even if you’re pretending to be someone else. Post session, it’s always a good idea to ‘debrief’ a bit and talk about what you enjoyed, didn’t, and whether it’s something you might want to do again.
Safe place to express your fantasies
Everyone has sexual fantasies, but not everyone feels comfortable expressing or acting upon them in their everyday life. When you step into someone else’s shoes (literally and figuratively), you are given the opportunity to express your fantasies as that person, not yourself, which may make you feel more comfortable sharing and experiencing your wildest sexual dreams.
Increases intimacy and trust
When you open yourself up to role playing, you are allowing yourself to escape reality for a while, and maybe even act like a completely different person than you’ve ever been before. Being yourself in a relationship takes confidence and a level of comfortability with your partner, but role playing takes your comfort to a whole new level. Choosing to step outside of yourself and be someone else entirely, even if for just a few minutes, is a vulnerable experience that can bring you and your partner to a deeper level of intimacy when both of you feel comfortable and are openly communicating throughout the experience.
Makes it easier to introduce new ideas like toys or different locations
When you are in character, you might find it to be easier to express yourself from your character’s point of view. Maybe you’ve always wanted to add toys into the bedroom or experiment with getting busy on the kitchen counter but were too shy to ask. Whatever it is, it might be easier for you to share your desires while in character, as opposed to as yourself.