Edited: 5/22/25
Solo play is sexy. But when you invite your partner in? That’s where things can really heat up. 🔥
Mutual masturbation is when you and your partner touch yourselves—either side-by-side, across the room, or while pleasuring each other with hands or toys. It’s intimate, playful, and wildly underrated. Whether you’re watching, participating, or taking turns, it’s all about shared pleasure and connection.
💞 Why Try Mutual Masturbation?
Mutual masturbation isn’t just hot—it’s a powerful way to build trust, explore fantasies, and communicate your desires. Here’s why couples are loving it:
- Perfect for long-distance lovers: It works just as well virtually as it does IRL.
- A hands-on way to learn: Teach your partner what you like by showing them—literally.
- An easy gateway to using toys: Introduce vibrators, strokers, and more with no pressure.
- A total game-changer for foreplay: It’s sexy, intimate, and a great way to switch things up.
- Builds vulnerability and connection: Watching each other’s pleasure deepens intimacy.
🔥 Tips to Make Mutual Masturbation Even Hotter
Ready to try it (or turn it up a notch)? Here are some tried-and-true ways to keep things spicy:
1. Switch Up the Space
Just like sex, mutual masturbation gets even more exciting when you play with location and position. Start close—touching, watching, teasing. Then try distancing yourselves. Sit across the room, stand while watching each other, or lie head-to-toe for a different angle.
Changing your perspective can change the whole experience.
2. Bring Toys into the Mix
Toys are your best friends here. Use them on yourself, on your partner—or both. Think clit stimulators, strokers, wand vibes, or wearable toys that let you control each other’s pleasure.
Not sure where to start? Try a finger vibrator—small, non-intimidating, and oh-so-fun for beginners.
3. Lock Eyes
Eye contact = instant intensity. Staring into your partner’s eyes while touching yourself (or watching them touch themselves) builds anticipation, emotion, and arousal.
Pro tip: Try not to look away or glance at their body. Staying eye-locked turns things up a notch.
4. Explore Fantasies—Guilt-Free
Want to try roleplay, costumes, or kinkier gear? Mutual masturbation is a no-pressure way to dip your toes into a fantasy. You can ease in, focus on fun, and gauge how you both feel—without performance expectations.
5. Watch Porn Together
If you're not sure how to begin, cue up something you both find sexy. Watching porn can help reduce nerves, set the mood, and spark conversations about turn-ons.
It’s also a great way to discover shared fantasies—and see what gets your partner going.
Ready to Turn Up the Heat?
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Watching each other come undone, that’s a different kind of sexy. 💋