When it comes to aging, what’s notoriously left out of the conversation is sexual health, sexuality, and how your sex life changes. But, have no fear — we’re here to fix that!
Being that sex is a basic human need, your desire for sex won’t go away as you age. You will, however, probably notice that your libido changes throughout different phases of life.
For women, sex drive is often highest in the 30s and 40s. For men, they tend to begin their 20s with a high sex drive that can last into the 40s, though testosterone production —- one of the chemicals key to the libido —- starts to decline around age 35.
Communicate and prepare for physical changes
No matter your age, it’s important to talk to your partner about your changing desires in order to continue to have a fulfilling sex life.
Beyond sex drive and desires, there will be physical changes that you may encounter as you age that might require you to approach sex a little bit differently through the years.
For example, drops in testosterone often lead to men taking longer to become erect. This might mean that you need to add more foreplay into the mix. Or, you can enlist the help of sex aids like penis pumps to help you create a strong natural erection and cock rings to help you stay harder longer. There are also penis extenders that can increase penis size and help you to overcome erectile dysfunction.
For women, a decrease in estrogen brought about my menopause tends to lead to vaginal dryness. This will probably lead to using more lube than you have in the past. If you aren’t satisfied, talk to your doctor about hormones, medication, and other options.
Keep up a fulfilling sex life
With the right tools and open communication, there’s no reason that you shouldn’t continue to have a satisfying sex life as you age.
Sure, a fulfilling sex life might look different in your 60s than it did in your 20s, 30s, and 40s, but embracing the moment and place you’re at now sexually will do wonders for your mindset and sex life.
When it comes to adjusting to changes in your body and sex drive, the mind is the most powerful asset. Comparison can be the thief of your joy, so be sure to do some work outside of the bedroom to strengthen your mindset and confidence in the body you have now instead of longing for the body you had twenty years ago.
Try something new
One way to to keep having satisfying and exciting sex is to try something new in the bedroom.
Using toys and lube can help you have fun, but also keep you safe — using a lubricant helps reduce friction during sexual contact, which means you and your partner are less likely to experience any soreness or cuts while you're having sex.