Oral sex is something that most people, particularly men, love to receive. Giving your man a blowjob is their dream come true. After all, it’s so satisfying to just lay back and get pleasured with your lover’s mouth.
As his partner, you want him to feel this intensely wonderful pleasure, but might not be getting much out of it for yourself. In fact, you might not like it at all.
When it comes to oral sex, not everyone enjoys giving it. If you fall into that category, you are not alone. There are many reasons this may be the case, but a lot of them seem to boil down to an uncertainty in the giver’s skills, a lack of confidence, or not enjoying the smells and tastes associated with it.
Blowjobs don't have to be a chore for you as the giver. They can be something that is (almost) as enjoyable for you, too. Here are a couple of ways to give him fantastic oral sex and make it something that you can enjoy too.
Recognize The Power You Hold
When giving oral sex, you are the ultimate Queen or King who is in complete control of your partner's pleasure. That is powerful! Recognize the power that you hold here and allow that to fuel your sexual fire.
By being in control, you have the opportunity to give them incredible pleasure that they can’t experience without you, something that they will not forget anytime soon. While this can be intimidating for some people, try to harness this power, turn it into confidence, and allow it to fuel the activity. Men love a confident sex partner, so allowing them to see just how sure of yourself and your abilities you are will do wonders and add to the experience immensely.
Learn Different Blowjob Techniques
In addition to harnessing that power, knowing that you have the right skills to bring your partner to climax and make it an experience he won't forget can also help boost your confidence and make a blowjob enjoyable for you.
Many people feel self-conscious of their abilities to perform oral sex, so we recommend learning exactly what to do to make your partner moan. A big part of this comes from listening to him, watching him, and figuring out what he likes in the moment. However, there are some general techniques you can try too.
Some techniques include experimenting with pressure and lip movements, using your hand with your mouth, twisting your hand or mouth, creatively use your tongue or using flavored lubes and toys to assist. When you find a particular move that makes him moan, keep your motion steady, as consistency in your movements will help to bring him to climax. When he's close to that point, keep doing exactly what you're doing to bring him over the edge. Some people make the mistake of changing things up as he approaches climax, but that can make your guy need to start from scratch all over again.
Focus On How You Feel Physically During The Blowjob
When you're performing oral sex, it's not about your own pleasure directly, but you may experience some fun physical sensations too. This will help you to get more into the act and enjoy it more.
Focus on the things that you feel inside of your mouth, on your hands, or where your breasts and genitals are rubbing against the bed or your partner's body. Oral sex is obviously a very intimate experience, so if you focus on the intimate sensations you feel, you will get something positive out of it too.
Talk Yourself Up And Turn Yourself On Beforehand
Before you get into the act, or maybe even before your partner comes over, spend some time talking yourself up and making yourself feel confident. Whether that means putting on your favorite playlist and belting it out, putting on lingerie and taking some sexy selfies for you (and maybe him) to enjoy, or playing with your favorite toy, we promise that you will get more pleasure out of the experience when you are feeling your absolute best.
Fake It Till You Make It
Maybe it's tough for you to drum up your confidence and feel like the Queen or King that you are before performing oral sex. That's okay. Sometimes it takes practice and a lot of positive self-talk to feel truly confident in our own skin — and maybe more than you can do right before a sexual encounter.
What you can do if you’re limited on time is fake the confidence until you have it. When you start telling yourself nice things and start looking at your body in a positive light, you will start to believe it as truth. Every time your partner compliments you, accept it and believe it’s true, because it is, whether you see yourself that way or not. This will help you to gain the confidence that you need to feel sexy both in bed and out.