We have another fun holiday to talk about, but this one is even better than World Sexual Health Day because it lasts for an entire month. We’re talking about Pleasure Your Mate Month.
Pleasure Your Mate Month is celebrated every year in September. So, good news — it’s happening right now!
Celebrating Pleasure Your Mate Month is just as simple as it sounds. By putting your mate’s pleasure at the forefront of your mind, you can build intimacy, reignite the flame, and have a fun time exploring new things.
Sex is just one of the many ways to pleasure your mate. Here are 10 ways to pleasure your mate beyond just sex.
Sensual massage
One amazing way to pleasure your partner is to help them unwind from a tough day with a relaxing massage. Get them in the mood by dimming the lights, lighting some candles, and turning on some meditative music. Lotions and oils will also go a long way in making this an enjoyable experience!
Date night
It’s been said that in the happiest marriages, the spouses never stop dating one another. Though life, work, and family might make it difficult to step away, finding the time to plan a date night with your mate is a sure way to reignite the spark and reconnect. Take them out to their favorite restaurant or plan a fun night in. If you want to add a fun, sexy twist to it, try one of these board games.
Oral sex
This might be an obvious one, but treating your partner to oral sex is always an amazing way to provide pleasure!
Mutual masturbation
Sometimes when life gets busy, our sex life becomes rushed. Why not slow things down and take it back to mutual masturbation? Touching one another can be incredibly hot and a great way to build intimacy. Check out these mutual masturbation tips to turn up the heat.
Sexy lingerie
Putting on a sexy set of lingerie — or gifting lingerie to your partner — is a sure way to please!
Anal play
Another great way to please your partner is with some backdoor fun. Anal play is for for those of all genders and sexualities, assuming they’re comfortable with it and interested in exploring. Start by gently rubbing the area around the anus and then consider moving up to these beginner-friendly toys.
Surprises
An amazing way to make your partner’s day is by surprising him or her with something thoughtful. It doesn’t have to be grand or expensive. Even something like coming home with their favorite coffee order or something they’ve had their eye on is sure to bring lots of happiness and pleasure!
A new sex toy
If you’re thinking about pleasure in a sexual way, a new toy is sure to do the trick! Perhaps go for something that the two of you can use together or choose something that you’d like to use on your partner. By doing that, both of you can be involved in exploring this new territory.
Acts of service
What’s the one chore or errand that your partner hates to do? Taking the initiative and doing this without him or her knowing is sure to bring a smile to their face. Another option is to take initiative on the chores that your partner often asks you to do. Get them done before they have the chance to ask. Your partner will be happy!
Cooking them a meal
Cooking a meal for your partner is one of the most intimate non-sexual things you can do. Most people associate home cooked meals with love, so making your partner’s favorite meal or even just throwing something simple together and taking ‘cook dinner’ off of their to-do list is sure to be appreciated.
We love that September is Pleasure Your Mate Month, but pleasuring yourself and your mate is an all-year priority at Boudoir Noir!
Whenever you’re looking for new things to spice up the bedroom, stop into one of our locations in Fort Wayne or Evansville or visit our online shop for the best in toys, lube, lingerie, and more.