Updated: 7/11/25
We’ve all been there — things are heating up with your partner, and just as you’re getting into the moment, the dog starts barking, the baby cries, or your phone won’t stop buzzing. Suddenly, the mood shifts and intimacy becomes rushed — more of a checklist than an experience.
Tantric sex is the complete opposite of that.
What Is Tantric Sex?
Rooted in ancient Hindu and Buddhist traditions, tantra means woven together in Sanskrit. Tantric sex is about deep connection — with yourself and your partner — by slowing things down and truly savoring each moment. It’s a sensual practice that emphasizes breath, presence, touch, and emotional intimacy over racing toward orgasm.
Setting the Scene
Before exploring tantric sex solo or with a partner, take a few minutes to prepare your space. Dim the lights. Light a candle. Add soft pillows or calming music. Eliminate distractions so you can fully immerse yourself in the experience.
Tantric sex begins with intention and mindfulness. Even before clothes come off, bring your awareness to your breath. Let go of the day’s stress and settle into your body. If you’re with a partner, sync your breathing together — it's a powerful way to connect before any physical contact even begins.
Self-Love Meets Sacred Ritual
If you're practicing alone, take your time. Touch your body with reverence and curiosity. Explore what brings you pleasure, not as a goal, but as a celebration of your own sensuality. Tantric self-pleasure is about slowing down and honoring every sensation.
Talking to Your Partner About Tantric Sex
Like anything new in the bedroom, communication comes first. Share what interests you about tantric sex — whether it’s the desire for deeper intimacy, slowing down, or reconnecting emotionally. This isn’t something to spring on your partner in the heat of the moment. Instead, talk about your intentions and be open to hearing theirs.
Genuine connection is the heart of tantra, and mutual enthusiasm is key.
Practicing Tantric Sex Together
Tantric sex is a slow, intentional experience focused on intimacy and trust. Think of it as a ritual rather than a routine.
Start with eye contact. Touch one another gently, perhaps with a massage. Let your hands linger. Focus only on what you feel — the warmth of their skin, the rhythm of your breath, the pulse of desire building gradually.
Stay fully present. Let the moment unfold naturally, without rushing toward intercourse or orgasm. If you do choose to have sex, opt for positions that promote closeness and eye contact — ones that allow your bodies to stay connected and your attention to remain on one another.
Focus on Giving
Tantric sex is as much about giving as receiving. Pour your energy into serving your partner — not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually. In turn, you’ll be met with the same presence and care. This mutual devotion deepens intimacy and turns sex into a transformative experience.
Ready to Explore More?
Whether you’re just beginning your tantra journey or looking to enhance your sensual practice, Boudoir Noir is here to help. Explore our Backroom Blog for more sex tips, or visit us in-store at our Fort Wayne or Evansville locations.
Take your time. Feel every moment. You deserve it.