You know how sometimes when you and your partner are just beginning to get intimate, the dog starts barking, the baby starts crying, or your phone starts ringing? In one of these situations, you likely rush through sex and barely have a second to enjoy it.
That’s the exact opposite of tantric sex.
Tantric sex is going to change your world.
Tantric sex is rooted in Hindu and Buddhist philosophy. The word tantra means woven together in Sanskrit, and tantric sex focuses on the feeling of pleasure and taking your time.
How to get in the mood
Before practicing tantric sex alone or with a partner, you may want to spend some time preparing your space to set the mood. Consider lighting candles or adding some pillows to the area. Remove potential distractions so you can remain in the moment.
Tantric sex focuses heavily on the breath and serving one another or yourself. Before even taking off your clothes, begin to bring your awareness to your breath. Let your day go and settle into your body. If you’re with a partner, enter into that breathing exercise together.
In tantric sex, you focus on celebrating the body. Orgasms aren’t rushed in order to feel deeper sensations. If you’re having tantric sex alone, spend time worshipping and touching your own body.
How to talk to your partner about tantric sex
Talking to your partner about what you want to engage in is always the first step in trying something new. Talk about what tantric sex is, your goals in trying it, and what it might look like to you. Considering that the main goal of tantric sex is genuine connection, tantric sex will only work if you both buy into it, so it’s definitely not something to just try in the moment.
How to practice tantric sex with your partner
Having a tantric sexual experience is a very slow, deeply intimate practice meant to bring the souls closer together.
There’s typically lots of eye contact and touch in tantric sex to help build intimacy in the moment. Begin by massaging one another and really celebrating your bodies. Remember to slow down as you run your hands down your partner’s back or your own body. Bring your attention to only your breath and just the sensations you’re feeling in the moment. Let things escalate naturally while maintaining these principles.
If you do eventually decide to have intercourse as part of your tantric session, we recommend a position that allows for maximum closeness and eye contact.
Take the time to serve one another
Tantric sex ins’t about you — it’s about your partner. In turn, you will have your chance to receive pleasure — and lots of it — but bring your focus to your partner. Tantric sex is one of the best ways to appreciate the body, so let your partner feel like the queen or king they are.
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