Updated: August 28, 2025
For penis owners, there’s one part of the reproductive system that doesn’t always get the spotlight: the prostate gland. You may have heard of it, but do you know where it is or what it does? Let’s change that.
What (and Where) Is the Prostate?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just inside the body, between the penis and anus. If you’ve ever applied a little pressure to your perineum (aka the taint), you may have brushed up against it without even realizing.
The prostate’s main job? Producing the fluid that makes up semen—the stuff that helps sperm travel. In short: every time you ejaculate, your prostate is hard at work.
What’s a Prostate Massage?
Even after ejaculation, some fluid can linger in the prostate ducts. A prostate massage helps release that leftover fluid by gently stimulating the gland.
There are two ways to do this:
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Internally: inserting a finger (or toy) into the rectum and applying gentle pressure.
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Externally: pressing on the perineum, the area between the anus and scrotum.
Prostate massages can be done solo, with a partner, with a toy, or by a physician. Just remember: use plenty of lube and go slow. Too much pressure can be uncomfortable (or even harmful).
People explore prostate massage for both pleasure and medical benefits—sometimes both!
Health Benefits of Prostate Massage
Prostate stimulation isn’t just about pleasure—it may also have some health perks. Here are a few:
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Reduced pain & inflammation – Massaging the gland can help relieve pressure caused by fluid buildup.
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Medical evaluation – Doctors sometimes massage the prostate to check for swelling, infection, or enlargement.
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Improved urine flow – If your prostate is enlarged and pressing on your urethra, massage may help release fluid and ease urination.
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Support for ED – For some people, prostate massage can make ejaculation easier and improve sexual performance.
Tips for Getting Started
If the idea feels intimidating, don’t worry—you don’t have to dive in all at once. Start with light external pressure, add toys or fingers when you’re ready, and take your time exploring. Comfort and relaxation are key.
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